One of the nicest guys ever...

[SuddenlySpring]

Back in high school, I knew this couple. They got married and had kids and yadda yadda yadda. Now, the girl and I, we were "Friends." As much as the word friends could mean when the other electrocutes me, belittles me, and starts rumors that have several people on different occasions stalking me with knives and saying that they will blow my house up with a bomb ( for saying what I never even said.). She told one girl that I said her baby was ugly for having cleft lip (I went to high school in washington DC, a few kids having a baby was not uncommon). I would never say such a thing! And to find out it was your "Friend" all along!

Now... that wouldn't fly nowadays, because I developed something called self-esteem. You know what I mean! I liked how she made me feel special whenever she wanted something.... back then.

My mother warned me and warned me about her, but I rarely had friends so I put up with a lot of lying-- and watching her cheat, steal, and everything in between. She even stole our art teacher's popcorn nearly everyday, and then stole her candy bars when the teacher was sellling them for an art trip!

Now I see that he is being accused of hiring a man to kill her. She's been sleeping with his best friend for two years, and half the police force as well, supposedly. I'm just....in shock. Just the nicest man ever!!! Really genuinely nice and giving and friendly. I do not want to see this person in prison! I'm not condoning him for supposedly wanting to kill her, but even that is hearsay! (A man told the police he said he wanted to kill her, so that he could get a shorter sentence. And he's done this before).

He was Just the kindest person.... And I could rant about 5 pages worth on what she's done to people. Stealing from work, school, teachers, friends, neighbors; lying to everyone! She's even called the cops on me, after she called me and told me to come to her house to pick up my CD's. I had no idea what was coming, she is that conniving! ARG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Lord help me!!!!
I want....to scream!

[Mandy]

This falls under the category of life lessons. We all go through various things and it can either destroy us or make us stronger, more in touch with who we are supposed to be. SS I give you credit for recognizing what her negativity was doing to you and building your self-esteem up to the point you separated yourself from her. The shame is that her husband might pay the price of her evilness. But this might be his life lesson. Being a support for him, even from a distance, can help. Praying always does also. Bless you for not allowing that friendship to take away from the wonderful person you are. She'll be accountable one day for her actions, don't worry about that.

[jdkline]

Well said Mandy. SS, even good people who are subject to abuse, ridicule, or other negativity can , IMHO, snap and become something they are not. So, the guy you are talking about here, is still a nice guy. Its just when we have had enough of living with some situations we will do ANYTHING to get out. Its a self preservation thing. She will pay her dues soon enough. I agree with Mandy, support him as much as you can.

[SuddenlySpring]

I think you guys are right. I do feel so helpless like I can't really do anything from where I am except give his family and friends all of my support, and hope that everything works out. This probably is his life lesson. You're right. You saying that he is still a nice guy brought me to tears. I feel so sorry for him, even though it was ultimately his decision in the end, love can bring us to our wit's end. Thank you for your understanding Mandy and Deb.

[jdkline]

Your very welcome.

[Diane]

Hi Suddenly Spring, I can feel your pain, Bless your heart...You can tell you have a caring heart...We will be praying for the whole situation...Blessings

[bhscarlett]

That is all I can say on that one, May God bless you and whoever is involved and may he heal all those hurting from these events, and tragedies.. I dont like the news for its always looking for sensationalism in this way,, Blessings, Beth

[diana]

Awful. Awful. Awful. It can be so overwhelmingly difficult to live in a kind, decent manner in this world sometimes. Hard not to feel bitter. Will say a prayer.

Diana Lynn

"If the world is night, shine my life like a light." --Indigo Girls

[SuddenlySpring]

Thank you all for the kind words. It's gonna take awhile I guess for me to make any sense of this. I know that there a lots of good people in the world, and I've already found a bunch of you guys on here so that makes me feel better. All of this stuff that touches so close to home makes me want to hug my kids and family a little closer.